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Post by celebi on Apr 14, 2011 8:56:27 GMT -5
Singer Chithra's 8 year old daughter drowned in a swimming pool in a villa in Dubai, that they were staying in. Nandana was born to Chithra and Vijay Sankar, an engineer-turned-businessman, several years after their marriage. The child was studying in a school in Chennai. Source |
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Post by celebi on Apr 14, 2011 9:04:39 GMT -5
K.S.Chithra is a wonderful singer. She had a daughter after 15 yrs of marriage and she was autistic. This is so painful. There are no words to heal the heart of a parent. Our deepest sympathies are with her and her family. www.daijiworld.com/images1/chitra_041411-4.jpgSource:daijiworld |
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Post by ShankarDada on Apr 14, 2011 9:43:29 GMT -5
This is soo sad. Hope the parents find peace.
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Post by whitecloud on Apr 14, 2011 9:54:44 GMT -5
That is a terrible thing to happen! Very sad indeed!
One can't fathom the magnitude of this loss. Payers to the family!
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Post by modus_operandi on Apr 14, 2011 10:03:04 GMT -5
Gut wrenching even to read the news.
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Post by whitecloud on Apr 14, 2011 10:08:44 GMT -5
I just read some of the news articles where she had described about her happiest moment being the birth of her daughter!
Its very depressing to even read some of those articles. Pictures make it even worse.
How does one get over such a tragedy? Time can be a healer as well as a killer at times.
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Post by iplrocks on Apr 14, 2011 10:36:09 GMT -5
That's really sad news. Parents can never get over the loss of their kids. Hope Chitra recovers from this loss.
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Post by courtneywalsh on Apr 14, 2011 11:40:06 GMT -5
I have always seen Chitra with a smile from the day she started singing for Tamil cinema.
I really don't know how the parents would be able to overcome this.
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Post by Anu on Apr 14, 2011 11:47:01 GMT -5
Me too - I have seen Chithra always with a big smile. She has an amazing spirit - hope she will make peace soon with this tragedy. Our prayers are with her.
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Post by whitecloud on Apr 14, 2011 12:07:14 GMT -5
Me too - I have seen Chithra always with a big smile. She has an amazing spirit - hope she will make peace soon with this tragedy. Our prayers are with her. It would be impossible for any parent especially with a single kid to make peace with it. Saeed Anwar a famous Pakistani cricketer quit cricket and got into religious activities after his only daughter's death, as he couldn't bear the pain that came with the loss. I can't imagine what goes into the parent's mind when such cruel reality hits them. These events question the existence of god for the believers! A truly testing time. |
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Post by Anu on Apr 14, 2011 12:57:06 GMT -5
My ex-colleague had two sons -
the first one was just-oh-so-perfect(abt to graduate, will be going into internship job as soon as he graduates,volunteers a lot, etc.) , the younger was not-so-perfect (school drop-out, lives in a trailer, etc.).
One day, his first son collapsed in his classroom and died immediately. It was very shocking to everyone. The very cheerful colleague became very depressed and quiet for almost a year. Slowly after 2 years, he started mingling. It was not to the original state but still was getting better.
He always told me that his marriage suffered because of the tragedy. He felt that his wife was distancing herself from him. We have had long talks and I have tried convincing him that she is not doing it under any pretext but is genuinely having a tough time coping with their son's loss. He would get so upset if any of us told him that it was in God's plan.
This tragedy brought the younger son very close to the family. The couple are recovering with the help of some therapy and time.
From my perspective, death causes sorrow to the loved ones. But for the one who has passed away, it is peace at last. Let us accept the fact that they are in a better place and we will be joining them some day soon - till that day, we will have to toil in this world through happiness, sorrow, gains and losses.
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Post by whitecloud on Apr 14, 2011 13:12:08 GMT -5
Let us accept the fact that they are in a better place and we will be joining them some day soon - till that day, we will have to toil in this world through happiness, sorrow, gains and losses. I don't know if its a "fact" but its definitely a philosophical healer. Religion helps the believers more here as we tend to make peace with it by placing the dead child into God's hands. For the non-believers, it's the acceptance of harsh reality. There's the living thing being turned into a non-living thing as good as a chair or table. |
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Post by Anu on Apr 14, 2011 13:20:10 GMT -5
I am sorry, I meant fact, in the sense of belief.
I agree that the feeling that "life sucks" hurts less for believers as they always expect light at the end of the tunnel.
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Post by LiveLifeMoment on Apr 14, 2011 13:47:43 GMT -5
Last week, I was reading an article on a San Jose mom undergoing chemotherapy for an advanced stage in breast cancer. Her case is very aggressive so the doctors have given her max. 2 years at best. She is just 34 with kids aged 6,4, 2 or something like that.
After denial she and her spouse are in acceptance phase now. They had hired a professional videographer for a 5 hr video on what she wanted to tell her kids, how she wanted to bring them up, what vision she had for them etc etc. Felt so sad reading that article.
Would you recommend something like that for your loved one if you know your dates are numbered?
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Post by Anu on Apr 14, 2011 13:56:08 GMT -5
That is one advantage of knowing what to expect. Since one has the opportunity, I think it is best to make use of it as much as possible - creating memories, leaving footprints, etc.
This triggered some deep thoughts - we all know that this is expected down the lane; but still we don't make much of an effort to create memories and leave footprints as much as we would, if we knew that the time is gonna run out soon. We focus on trivial things, even after knowing that the time may run out anytime - there is no guarantee!
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