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Post by dambodambo on Mar 28, 2011 11:21:16 GMT -5
Recent time magazine had an article on emotions in workplace and the gender differences on the issue. The article was written by a woman VP while stating her experience in NBC more than a decade ago and she was of the opinion that expressing emotions openly should not be a taboo. Men and women differ in expressing their emotions in workplace. The article had outlined 5 top reasons why men get upset and why women get upset. Only 2 of the 5 reasons were common between both the genders  Are you emotional in workplace or your spouse? Do you agree that discussing the workplace tension with spouse at home might reduce the similar tension at workplace ? |
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Post by courtneywalsh on Mar 28, 2011 11:30:20 GMT -5
Recent time magazine had an article on emotions in workplace and the gender differences on the issue. The article was written by a woman VP while stating her experience in NBC more than a decade ago and she was of the opinion that expressing emotions openly should not be a taboo. Men and women differ in expressing their emotions in workplace. The article had outlined 5 top reasons why men get upset and why women get upset. Only 2 of the 5 reasons were common between both the genders Are you emotional in workplace or your spouse? Do you agree that discussing the workplace tension with spouse at home might reduce the similar tension at workplace ? My spouse is a SAHM (Stay at Home Mom). I don't discuss work at home. Want to forget about work once I reach home. |
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Post by superman on Mar 29, 2011 10:25:29 GMT -5
I don't know whether being emotional in workplace is good or bad but I share workplace news with the spouse and it helps me release some of the tension. But unlike my wife, I do not share all the minor details of work |
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Post by readytogo on Mar 29, 2011 11:36:41 GMT -5
Don't know to call myself emotional but one of the thing that I do religiously each day fater going homw is to fill my dear pathi ear with all the important things that are happened at workplace.
yeh... I do that each day:) and he faithfully listens or pretends to whatever I say.
On the contrary mu husband hardly share anything. I do bug him for that too...
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Post by sportsisking on Mar 29, 2011 13:37:02 GMT -5
I am not sure whether sharing with spouse will help much in volatile situations. Emotions from males are rare in workplaces and many people successfully manage to hide their emotions. And women are becoming tough too.
I read the time article too but I thought it dealt with the effects on people at higher ups than at the lower rung. I might be wrong.
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Post by celebi on Mar 29, 2011 14:01:45 GMT -5
For a long period of time, my DH and I used to work at the same place, in the same team. The Advantage was that we could bitch abt work stress like we would with a colleague but without being scared of getting outed to other team members :-)
Abt getting emotional, when certain stuff happen, it upsets us the same way, irrespective of the gender bias. However, there are certain issues that would upset me more than him - I think, this occurs when it involves snubbing by other female colleagues, trying to set pecking order, etc. Such things dont upset my DH, however.. I think, itz got to do with the wiring :-)
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Mar 29, 2011 22:15:15 GMT -5
Emotional - as in drama? I haven't experienced this so far. But then again, I'm the kind that doesn't get unnecessarily involved in politics and drama that's not work-related. So that helps in maintaining my professional space! |
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Post by bollywoodmania on Mar 29, 2011 23:08:39 GMT -5
I wish people suggest how to avoid being emotional in workplace. For females in IT, that is always a sensitive point.
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Post by iplrocks on Mar 30, 2011 14:21:36 GMT -5
I wish people suggest how to avoid being emotional in workplace. For females in IT, that is always a sensitive point. Just keep saying that work is still a small part of your overall life. When people start assigning more importance to work than family, it usually leads to emotional outbursts, toxic relationship with co-workers etc. |
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Post by tara on Mar 31, 2011 7:16:40 GMT -5
But we spend significant amount of active time at workplace(8-9 hours). After going home you get occupied with chores,errands. Is n't it natural to develop some kind of emotional feeling towards work?
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Post by iplrocks on Mar 31, 2011 13:56:23 GMT -5
But we spend significant amount of active time at workplace(8-9 hours). After going home you get occupied with chores,errands. Is n't it natural to develop some kind of emotional feeling towards work? Yes, it is natural but I think as one finishes more than a decade at workforce, the detachment starts coming automatically. Young men and women are more emotional at workplaces when their kids are young and as the children responsibilities reduce, the workplace starts gaining more time but same time it starts losing importance at the emotional level as one is able to control the emotions better at workplace because of less tensions at home front. I could be wrong in my observations. |
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Post by nancydrew on Mar 31, 2011 18:36:24 GMT -5
I concur with IPLRocks. As one spends more number of years one realizes being emotional does not help much favorably for career growth. This is from a perspective of an career oriented individual. In the early stages work had special meaning / rewards / one word of appreciation can make an employee happy and motivated. The same effect reduces greatly as one progresses.
One needs to learn let out work related emotions in a healthy way. While spouse discussing with each other about day-today activities is surely good in a way. However, there are also negative effects too. If works comes home or home goes to work, surely there will be problems.
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Post by courtneywalsh on Apr 1, 2011 10:44:56 GMT -5
I do agree with iplrocks and nancydrew. If there's tension on homefront, it's bound to affect your work or vice versa. It's always better to keep two things separate. One of the reasons why am not a big fan of working from home. Lots of others doing very diligently and spend their commute time on finishing the deliverables. To me, home is meant for family and work is meant for browsing . |
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Post by bollywoodmania on Apr 1, 2011 21:41:11 GMT -5
I don't like WFH either as it's usually not productive plus if there is any tension at office, it gets spilled to home front too. Want to ask about one of my colleagues in my workplace. She is in her late 20's and is very aggressive and wants to raise up to Indra Nooyi kind of CEO/CTO in 10 years . I admire her ambitions (even if not realistic) but OTOH, she is very rough to people in their 30s treating them as though they are not in her league even though most of them are more knowledgeable than her. People treat her with kid gloves and this has gone to her head. How do you address this to her and to the management without burning bridges or without getting emotional ? |
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Post by iplrocks on Apr 3, 2011 11:34:24 GMT -5
BM,
I have no advice on how to make her understand the team's dynamics. My belief is everyone is special and experience teaches everything.
Was hearing a radio show on the way to work and an elderly lady was asked for life's advice based on her experience, she simply said 'Live the life, the experience comes automatically'. Golden words !!
Don't let the rest of the team treat her special like you said with kid gloves; if she has the capacity to rise on her abilities, she will rise and if your team's dynamics doesn't allow her to reach her goals, she will realize and leave. Ambitious people know how to expand their horizon.
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